Selvaaaa

Selva.
One of my dear pals. Got a call from him today. He has got an offer from one of the technology consulting & outsourcing giants. He was on cloud nine. Before I go any further, let me give you a quick briefing on Selva. He is a 5 foot person with weighing not more than 60 kilos. Keep changing his hairstyle and dressing sense. Born and brought up in Dindugal (Down South in Tamil Nadu), he is a very easy going fellow. He was one of my college mates. We shared the same major. His academic skills were awesome. Though he was from a tamil medium school, he consistently scored above 80% in each semester, a skill which I still adore. Some of the things I liked about him are: He never sleeps much, When it comes to responsibilities – he is way ahead of all of us, when it comes to studies – he would concentrate so much that you won’t find single MM of nails left in his fingers, he is very much attached to his parents, keeps his mother in good humour by doing mock calls and so on.

Having said all these, he was the last fellow to earn a carrier. It was nearly a year and above after graduation that he got a job. Every time he called me up, every time we (Me, Mom & Dad) discussed above Selva, we would question ourselves “Why not Selva? SO much academic skills, so much adorable behaviour, so easy to mingle, yet not a good carrier. Why ?” This call from him has answered all the questions. Sometimes God gives you what you ask for. Sometime, He asks you to wait, take some time and gives you a better one. Sometimes, He makes you wait a bit longer, and gives you the BEST. That’s is how I treat this offer to you Selva. God has given you the best. Make the most of it. Tons of wishes to you my dear friend. All the very best.

Some good work ethics shared by my Mentor

In negative instances !!
First of all accept the decision gracefully; it will save you a lot of emotional drain and also give you enough peace. Go through this experience as a learning phase. No wonder 'silent' and 'listen' have the same alphabets.

Having accepted, don't judge your new boss from a negative mindset; look at what you can learn from him/her.

Don't keep discussing with others in the organisation as to why this happened and seek their sympathy. This will show you in bad light.

Instead of asking yourself where else wrong, ask yourself where else you can improve.

Don't become cynical of any new system the boss likes to implement; instead politely bring out the pros and cons of new system and suggest alternatives. You will be respected.

Even when one of your juniors speaks ill of your boss to you, don't encourage him/her. Extend whole hearted support your boss in all his endeavours.

When working with your batchmates

You respect their experience; mutually aligh with both your expectation and style of functioning

Ensure the differences in the thought process, if any, are handled in a professional manner; else it will reflect poorly the maturity levels of both of you.

While you take key decisions, involve them. This would make him feel that they are important and their inputs are respected. They would try to reciprocate the same.

Give enough space to them to act independently.

Never judge anyone while he/she may be emotionally down, he/she will still be mentally strong to perform any job.

Every guy has both right side (positive) and the wrong side (negative). It our responsibility to identify the strengths and learn to work with the right side.